4 Ways to choose your words wisely.

The power of life and death and in the tongue. (Proverbs 18:21) 


Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body. (Proverbs 16:24)


I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak… (Matthew 12:36)


I think we’ve gotten careless, friend. I mean, we just talk and talk and talk. We send memes and gifs with others’ words because they seem relevant, they make fun of life, and we value the ability to be funny in a sarcastic way. If you listen to how those around you speak, you’ll start to hear things that come up a lot, and these things reveal so much about what’s going on underneath all of the humor, the comment crafting, the culture we wear like a second skin.

Below you’ll find 4 ways to choose your words wisely, and what saying these things reveals about the condition of your heart.

 

1 - "I AM" STATEMENTS REVEAL WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT WHO YOU ARE

Don’t use “I am” unless you are saying something positive. So many times we say things about ourselves, usually in a joking, sarcastic way, that says I’m so…. Or I am a ….

Watch how you are defining yourself with the way you talk. Most of what we say is just a fraction of what goes on in our heads. What are you thinking about yourself? 

Don’t feel guilty about saying things you don’t necessarily think are true. You can say, “I am powerful” even when you don’t feel like it’s true because it’s truth based in the word of God. Saying these kind of qualifying identity statements will build you up. You are declaring truth despite what you feel, and that is a victorious thing to do!

 

2 - "IF," "THEN," & "SHOULD" STATEMENTS REVEAL SELF-CONDEMNATION

How often do you say things like, “I really should eat less sugar,” or “I thought about doing that,” or even, “If THIS happens, then my life will be better.” These kind of statements actually reveal a lot about how we think about God and the future He has planned for us. It shows that we are not content, that we may not be trusting God to be our provision and source or we aren’t being good stewards and recognizing how He is providing in the moment. It can also reveal self-condemnation and poor self-esteem. These statements reveal a kind of shame that lives inside.

If you are spending time with Him consistently, you will find that these vague statements don’t come out as often. You won’t think them as much. You will be able to do the things you know need to be done, and everything else isn’t as important because you have the right perspective about life, relationships, and yourself.

 

3 - "TRY" STATEMENTS REVEAL A LACK OF FAITH

Yoda is so wise, you guys. “Do or do not, there is no try.” TRUTH!

Effort is absolutely appreciated and considered...meaning actions are GOOD. But results speak much louder than intention, and we use the word "try" to give ourselves an out. When we don’t have confidence in our abilities, we say “I’ll try” to accomplish something instead of “I will.” 

How much more powerful does it sound to say “I will” and “I can” or even “I will do my best?” It’s crazy how much of our identity is revealed in the things we say. 

Yoda is right. There is no try when we are talking about our intent to do something. You either believe you can, or you don’t really know what you can do, what God can do. That’s the opposite of confidence. Faith is the hope in things unseen...you can't see it, you believe. You don't actually know something is true, you just BELIEVE. If you know you can do something, it's not faith anymore, it's just knowledge. 

And remember...it’s okay to fail! It’s okay to say no, too. Make decisions based on what you know is true about you (hello you beautiful child of God) and what your schedule allows. You are free to say no to the things that don’t line up with your priorities. You are free to say “I will do this, achieve this, or be this” even if it’s not true yet and it’s far away. 

 

4 - COMPARISON STATEMENTS REVEAL DISBELIEF & DISCONTENT

When you are scrolling through IG and you see someone who basically has the life you have been trying to build, and you want to scream or cry or hide or throw in the towel….that’s not a good place to be.

How many times have you said, “she is so lucky” or “how the heck did they afford that” or “I would give anything to have what she has…”

First of all, you need to know that there’s enough room for you. God put unique desires and skills in you, and even if you think your dreams and goals look just like someone else’s life, when you get there, it wont look like that. It’ll look like you. 

Secondly, comparison is such a jerk. It’s a stronghold rooted in disbelief. If you don’t believe that God is good and has good things for you. Has more power, hope, truth, life, love….all for you.

Ephesians 3:20 >> Never doubt God’s mighty power to work in you and accomplish all this. He will achieve infinitely more than your greatest request, your most unbelievable dream, and exceed your wildest imagination! He will outdo them all, for His miraculous power constantly energizes you.”

Believe in this good, good, Papa God! Those people you see, they are showing you a fraction of their lives, and they are very good at making it LOOK good, but you don’t know what’s really going on. What pain they carry. Thank God for them and the beauty they share, but don’t be jealous. Just ask God for what your heart is desiring! Focus on HIM and His goodness. He is FOR YOU!

So watch your words, daughter. They are powerful and effective, like weapons of warfare. You can heal with your words, or destroy. CHOOSE your words wisely.D